[No, I don’t have the answer. But you might find something in women’s magazines or on mainstream web portals.]
Sex is important to everyone – and you’d be a liar to deny it.
Everyone knows sex sells – everything from ideas to news to merchandise to relationships. Even itself, if we go by whatever data we can find on the pornography trade (no one wants to call it an industry yet!). But, most of all, we can see sex glaring at us from ads to websites to stories in newspapers and magazines. Particularly, in women’s magazines.
The last of these categories – sex in women’s magazines – never stops to amaze me. Not that the topic of sex should not be covered by women’s magazines; but the sheer omnipresence of it.
Here’s a sampler from our very own Femina:
- “Facts & myths about Tantric sex”
- “Put an end to faux Os”
- “5 love strategies to bring sexy back”
- “5 lesser known tips for great sex”
- “Get SEX Smart. Our guarantee: You’ll never be bored in bed again”
- “SEX SLANG you must know”
- “Not tonight darling… how to get your man in the mood”
- “Keep the other men in your life”
It seems to be a common practice. Check out magazines like Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Mademoiselle, Glamour, Elle and others, and you’ll be sure to find similar stories on lessons on sex that women need to learn about men.
Why is it that women, who always complain that sex is what’s on a man’s mind (and presumably not on theirs), have to be constantly reminded of sex? Why do women need so many lessons on how to please the men in their lives? Why is there so much readership of – even enthusiasm for – sex in women’s magazines, when all the preoccupation, obsessions and anxieties about sex are supposed to be with men?
Are women as preoccupied with sex (these days) as men are? Is the amount of sex in their lives so inadequate (of course, the men are at fault) that they need to be coaxed into participating in it constantly? Are women so callous about their sex life that they have to be constantly reminded – albeit tutored – by these magazines and their lessons on sex?
[When talking about sex in their magazines, another fact that amazes me is the blatant bias these women’s magazines have in favour of heterosexual women. Lesbians and bisexuals don’t seem to fall in their readership. Yet no one complains.]